I haven't discussed my mother's cancer in a while, but I think most of my regular readers (all six of you!) know that she has metastatic colon cancer that has recently spread to her liver & lungs. My mother has been battling her cancer since June 2000 and unfortunately she never made it to five years disease free. Her oncologist apparently (my mother isn't very open about her doctor's visits) gave her a one-year prognosis on Friday, with a "few more months" if she undergoes one more cycle of chemotherapy.
I'm taking the baby down to Florida next week for a five-day visit (Thurs-Mon) with Mami, my sister, my brother and their families. I am also going down in June with all three kids for an entire week. I am going to start an emergency travel fund just in case my mother makes a turn for the worse, and I have to get on the next available flight to it down to Tampa. My siblings and I know a prognosis isn't always an accurate prediction (many people outlive their prognosis by years while others get unexpectedly sick and don't even make it that far; you never know), but I obviously want to see my mother as often as possible this year...
I think I've mentioned that I have an ongoing project of videotaping conversations with my mom so my siblings and I can share them with our children as they get older. I will continue this on my upcoming trips down there. My sister, brothers and I also plan to ask her if she has any "last wishes" -- people she wants to see, short trips (to Miami or New York) she may want to take -- while she is relatively well.
Are we missing anything? What have those of you who've dealt with a dying parent done for them in their final months? What would you do if you got this news? I'm trying to stay strong, but if I think about it too long I break down. I don't want to break down. My mother didn't lose it when my grandmother was dying, and I don't want to either!